Murphy's Maintenance Schedule

As a CTO and a mechanic, I fully understand the importance of preventative maintenance.  Generally speaking, it prevents a lot of corrective maintenance.  The math is pretty simple, whether talking about a TV transmitter, a old Jalopy, a house, a lawn, a table saw, or even ourselves.  When we ignore the maintenance schedules, it never ends well and on top of that, that fucker Murphy will ensure things will happen at the absolute worst moment.  Grief has taught me something I wasn’t expecting.  You can't run yourself indefinitely while deferring maintenance activities.

The funny thing is that I know a lot of people who don’t flush their water heater annually.  At the same time, I know a lot of folks who are pretty disciplined when it comes to their equipment.  Changing the oil when they are supposed to, swapping out the air filter in the HVAC and keeping the yard mowed and wilderness trimmed up.  Those maintenance activities allow us to see worn parts before they fail, keeping Murphy from getting a point in their column.  Inherently we know every piece of machinery keeps score, deferred maintenance always comes due at some point.

For some weird reason, we are terrible at applying that same logic to ourselves, for the most part.  Sure, we get our hair trimmed and keep our fingernails trimmed but it is so easy to ignore various aches and pains.  It’s so easy to postpone that doctor’s appointment.  We convince ourselves that we are simply too busy to deal with those little things because there are bigger things demanding our attention.  And then one day, BAM, one of those little things all of the sudden becomes a big thing.  And all the sudden, were dealing with corrective maintenance instead of just preventing it.

The last few months have given me plenty of opportunities to learn that lesson.  Between grief, work, the Galaxie, the house, and everything else life has thrown my way, Ive become pretty good at focusing on what needs fixed next.  What I haven't been nearly as good at is maintenance activities.  Sure, the truck has had its oil changed, the yard is getting mowed, the wilderness is getting beaten back.  But it feels very reactive, not responsive. 

Which is exactly how I found myself sitting in a message chair getting the Blossom Pedicure this afternoon.  Now if you had told 25 year old Smitty that one day I’d be getting pedicures, driving a convertible, writing about grief and spending evenings talking to a dog named Larry, he’d a laughed you right out of the room.  Hell, he ain’t much better at 61 so… 

It started with some pink stuff applied to my legs.  I have no idea what it was, but in automotive terms I’m fairly certain it was either a cleaner, a lubricant or some sort of surface preparation compound.  No explanation was offered and I wasn’t about to ask, at that point I was committed to the process.  Then came the nail work.  Trimming, cleaning, and what not.  Going barefooted a lot produces what some may call pretty funky dogs.  Then came scrubbing the toes with orange slices, yeah, an actual orange.  Apparently, fruit plays a larger role in modern podiatric maintenance than I’d previously understood.  Then she broke out what could only be called a cordless micro angle grinder.  She inspected my heels and selected an appropriate grit and got to work.  I felt simultaneously judged and professionally respected. 

Then came some purple stuff she messaged into my legs from the knee down.  It has the consistency of wheel bearing grease, with a medium grade abrasive.  If I had to guess, I swear it contained carborundum.  The fact it smelled of lavender suggests my assessment may not be entirely accurate.   Next my feet were sealed inside plastic bags containing orange colored wax.  Oddly enough, this seemed perfectly normal considering the sequence of events that proceeded it.  More message followed, then a bit of color on the big ones, a dark blue and metal flake blue.  An hour and 21 minutes after the process began, my dogs had been cleaned, ground, polished, lubricated, exfoliated, waxed, detailed and possibly ceramic coated.  I paid, tipped in cash and walked out the door feeling like I just visited the coolest service center ever. 

As I walked out to my truck, I found myself laughing at the whole experience.  Not because of the ridiculousness of it.  Not because my dogs looked and felt better than they had any right to.  But for an hour and twenty one minutes, somebody else’s job was to take care of the maintenance.  They may not sound like much, but this is my second ever maintenance of this type and it felt strangely unfamiliar.

The last few months have been filled with fixing things.  Solving problems and making all the decisions that need to be made when your human is no longer with ya.  The wheels keep right on turning.  There is always something that needs attention.  Something broken, something overdue, something demanding to be moved to the top of the list.  Somewhere in there I let myself get worked to the bottom of the list.  Intellectually, it is funny to me.  I would never treat a transmitter that way.  I would not ignore a bearing that is grumbling.  I would not skip an oil change, and I would not look at an obvious maintenance items and say, “I’ll get to that someday.”

Yet in many cases, that is exactly how we treat ourselves, how I was treating myself.  Greif has a way of narrowing our focus.  At first surviving the day is enough.  Later it becomes surviving the week, then the month.  Before ya know it, you’ve become pretty good at enduring and pretty lousy at maintenance.  Maybe that is why the pedicure surprised me.  not because of the orange slices, the wax bags or the miniature angle grinder.  Because for the first time in a while, I was actually performing some maintenance instead of waiting for corrective action.

Early on, Bride would ask why I spent so much time and money maintaining things.  The cars, the tools, the house, the yard, the tractor.  My answer was always the same.  Things last longer when ya take good care of them.  Murphy is still out there.  The Galaxie still needs a lot of work, and my hot water heater needs flushed.  My life did not suddenly become simpler because a nice lady attacked my heels with a cordless angle grinder.   But for once since all of this started, I put myself back on top of the maintenance schedule.

Bride would have found this whole experience hilarious, because it is.  Things last longer when ya take good care of them, period and all stop.  Apparently, that includes old mechanics, widowers and guys with metal flake blue toenails.